i don’t understand, shouldn’t this be more healing?

going through a lot of posts, i understand how this gets to addictive levels. but i’ve seen many dommes who help people work through these struggles. ive seen dommes set spending limits for their sub or require x savings or punishment ensues. (i understand punishment is desirable). but this is a kink first and foremost. a life should exist outside of it and i don’t understand if this is just not being promoted/cared for? do you think there is a more healing, ethical way to go about the kink so ppl aren’t actually 100% destroyed irl or fully addicted?

don’t come for me. i’m genuinely asking