Why was everybody else allowed a pass or given empathy but I wasn’t worth it?

even my abusers, people would come up with some sort of reasoning and try to make me feel empathy for them. I acted out in some ways as a child, used sexual language or jokes at an early age, did some weird stuff with my own body, got into troubles at school as a result of my abuse, but I was never abusive sexually or physically to anyone. why was I always put down by society? even for small mistakes at work for example or around some family they are so quick to gang up on me, but cover for themselves.