How many times have you been hoovered and how long did they wait before contacting you?

The first time nex and I broke up and went nc it lasted 8 months before he hoovered and love bombed again.

When we got back together the behaviors and treatment got worse! The bad escalated so quickly and just kept compounding until he did a reverse discard involving his mom. Yeah that was a total mind fck.

We've been nc for four months now and healing has been slow bc this last time around was intense and draining. Plus in the back of my mind Im wondering if he's going to hoover again or is it quits? The uncertainty makes me feel like Im in limbo or frozen, just waiting for something that may or may not happen. I just dont want to be caught off guard. But I suppose thats the whole purpose of it.

I know the basics in keeping yourself and your mind busy in order to break the truama bond and rumination. I just cant help myself from thinking "what if he comes back" it honestly scares me. Im hoping as more time goes by I'll worry about it less, its the surviving right now thats so hard.