If you project your trauma and misery on innocent people, then I have no compassion for you

As a person who is living with trauma, especially from living with narcissistic family members, I can say this: It is a choice whether you are kind or unkind to people.

By people, I am not talking about people to blame. I am talking about people who are completely innocent. People with trauma tend to project their own trauma onto the innocent, because they want others to feel the misery that they feel. For instance, if a person has been living with abusive parents decides to marry, have children, become abusive to them, and justify it because they were abused themselves, then that is his or her own choice, and should be fully accountable for it. To those people who choose to be cruel to the innocent, I don't see you as a human being. You are trash in my eyes, regardless of what social-status you are in.

At the same time, there are people who have lived with extreme trauma, but continue to be very kind to the rest of society. These people are grateful for what they have, and would never want anyone else (who is innocent) to experience what they have been through, like I do. That is why I have immense compassion for people who are genuinely kind and grateful, and will continue to show kindness toward them.