AITAH for not allowing my mother in law to see my son until my husband is done with military training

For reference my husband is in military training and won’t be fully done until later this year.

Before he left for training my mother in law wanted to see him but she didn’t have a ride a over here so I agreed to pick her up and take her back as well as let her stay with us for a few days. We are not as close as my husband is adopted. I drove over 8 hours in total to pick her up and take her back but never got one thank you. While she was here she asked me to take her to multiple places basically serving as her taxi. I should have put my foot down but I agreed. Not only that but she asked me to go take her to her sister’s boyfriend’s house so she could buy weed but didn’t disclose this information until after I agreed. She asked if she could smoke here and it made my car smell like weed. I didn’t want the weed smell around my son as he’s a baby and I wasn’t using my brain at the time. I feel as though this is partially my fault and I should have been smarter and just said no.

She was not a very good guest while she was here. Leaving garbage. I don’t know maybe ask to help out and clean or help with something while you’re sleeping on my couch for 3 days?? Is that too much?

I don’t like to let my son sleep past 5:30pm. It ensures I get enough sleep and that he will sleep well throughout the night. She apparently didn’t like that. I had told her multiple times to keep him awake since she was holding him but she didn’t follow my rules. Mind you I asked MULTIPLE times and she still wouldn’t listen. I asked my husband to tell her and of course she listened to him. Going against my word and only listening to him.

I don’t want anything to escalate while my husband is gone. She clearly doesn’t respect me about my own child. I am not comfortable being around her without him here because of her lack of respect. She wants to come visit but I am in no shape or form driving to go get her again.