The truth behind why narcissists "love" you.

The only reason a narcissist keeps you around is because you produce something they need. Attention. Validation. Emotional reactions. Your admiration, your anger, your confusion. All of it feeds them.

This is called narcissistic supply. And it operates exactly like an addiction.

When you give them praise, their brain floods with dopamine. When you react emotionally to their provocations, they get a hit. Your tears, your frustration, your desperate attempts to fix things. All of it is the drug.

They don't love you. They love how you make them feel about themselves.

This is why narcissists can discard someone they "loved" overnight and move on like nothing happened. The person was never the point. The supply was. When you stop producing it, or when someone else produces it more intensely, you become replaceable.

People romanticize the intensity of these relationships. The highs feel like passion. The lows feel like depth. But it's just a addict chasing a fix and a supplier being drained.

Your narcissist with their new target isn't in love. They found a fresh source. That person isn't special either. They're just new. And newness produces stronger hits.

Eventually the new supply gets depleted too. The cycle repeats. No one is actually valued. Everyone is just fuel.

Once you see this clearly, the pain shifts. You're not grieving a love that failed. You're recognizing you were a resource that got used up.

That's not a reflection of your worth. That's a reflection of their emptiness.