How do I go forward ?

My daughter hasn’t spoken to me directly for the last year, it started with her not turning up to any family event I was going to be at , to now being openly hostile relayed to me by other family members.

My question is… their Birthday is coming around next week and usually I put some €€€ into their bank.

Do I put the money in anyway or respect the Fact they don’t want to talk to me or see me, or not ??

I don’t want to make things worse either way

I love them, and have tried unsuccessfully to talk to them, through phone call or txt.

I even wrote a letter to them months ago , trying to apologise for events that have happened throughout our lives. That was highlighted to me by them through text. ( going back to childhood , every f*•* up I ever made , despite apologies at the time )

Nothing. No response.

I really don’t know where to go from here. Any advice welcome.