45 [M4F] ABDL newbie/curious

As the title says, I'm new to the ABDL side of things. My curiosity is mainly around the diaper play aspect of ABDL. I've long been a fan of the liquids and solids the diaper is made to hold, but am turned off by the seemingly all pervasive humiliation aspect of the kink. I know some diaper lovers like that as well, but the vibe seems to be much more in line with what I like about pee and poop - it's fun, it's cute and it should be shared! I'd love to chat with someone that feels the same and wouldn't mind a few probing questions from a curious newbie