30 [M4F] #USA #EastCoast Attractive, experienced Dom seeking genuine submission

Attractive Dom, 30, from the East Coast (US) approaching BDSM from a place of intention, transparency, and experience. I’m ideally looking for something in-person, but am fine with things being online for however long necessary if it seems like we’d be highly compatible.

Despite having had multiple, healthy, in-person dynamics with subs, I have never been married and I don’t have any children. I simply have not yet crossed paths with a sub who fully inspires those feelings within me.

Anything within the physical realm comes second to what I personally prioritize, which is a genuine, mental, and emotionally resonant connection. I also think a connection to that degree undoubtedly strengthens sexual chemistry.

While I enjoy leading and being in control, I cannot think of anything less magnetic than a sub who doesn’t have a personality of her own and uses her submission as a reason to be overly passive in all areas of the dynamic 24/7. In other words, there are times when it’s both appropriate and called for to ask meaningful questions and take a deep interest in the life of one’s Dom, regardless of how passive a sub may be (if you’re anxious about the notion of overstepping, you can simply ask if a topic in general is off limits or open to conversation).

My main interests are music, guitar, film, psychology, self-improvement, writing, traveling, great food, spirituality, and working on a piece of property I own (to name a few). I’m also in the early stages of starting a business.

While I am self-dependent and goal-oriented, that does not mean I want a dynamic that is cold, disconnected, or shallow. I ideally want a sub who is warm, empathetic, supportive, and nurturing. I believe a sense of mutual empathy should be at the core of any legitimate dynamic (second only to a good sense of humor and the ability to laugh about life when it calls for it).

Also, because I believe in the importance of transparency, my height is 5’9 when I head out the door for the day with shoes on. I mention this not because I personally think it matters, but because I know there’s a small portion of subs that would place importance on the couple inches of difference between my height and 6’. Everyone is of course entitled to their own preferences and I don’t judge anyone for having them. To me, however, height doesn’t matter (both in regard to my own and that of a potential sub). A huge amount of musicians, actors, etc. whose work has inspired me are my height or below it, and I simply haven’t come across a valid reason to care about something that is completely out of a person’s control.

I have a long list of kinks which I can share during a one-on-one conversation. I also have a strong/healthy sex drive, but I possess a good amount of will power and self control (aka it’s fine if your sex drive isn’t as high). I definitely understand the importance of balance.

Lastly, remember that you do not need to be perfect. Nor do you have to share all of my interests. We are all a unique blend of imperfections and interests/passions. The most important part of a dynamic is connecting on a real wavelength, rather than on a superficial level. If you resonate with this, don’t hesitate to send me a DM.