Feeling some type of way

Hey guys,

Just need some advice and grounding I think. Just don’t be mean about it haha. We are in northern IL.

I had a first gathering with my bridesmaids yesterday. Only 6 out of 7 were about to attend. We had food, music, chatted, a couple questions to get to know me on small details. Had a little gift for everyone, it was a lot of fun!

One of them did a presentation on Bachelorette options. It was amazing! We set the dates for it, but I’m just not feeling it honestly.

I understand we’re all busy outside all of this planning and wedding relating things. Obviously with a larger group it’s harder to find dates that works for everyone. At first we found weekend in April but that can’t work because one is still in school (out of state.) Then we found a PART weekend in June that the trip would be split into two.

Friday June 11th we thought of a dinner experience in Chicago.

Then regroup Sunday June 13th in Lake Geneva for an all day thing for activities.

One bridesmaids has a teen son who is heavily into soccer. He has games ALL weekend long and says she does not want to miss any of his games. Another maid has 2 little ones. I was one FaceTime to make sure with the bridesmaid that couldn’t attend yesterday that those dates worked for her. While I was on the call, they were talking and I jumped back into that convo when they had already decided they want local.

Note the options I put down were:

Door County, WI (3.5-4ish drive)

Lake Geneva, WI, (45 min drive)

Nashville, TN (flight)

AZ (flight)

I don’t know I’m just not feeling it at all. Like the dinner thing, we can do dinner any other day??? Ugh I don’t know. I feel like with this entire wedding process a lot of things you envision don’t come into life because of logics, finances or whatever. I get it, it’s life, don’t come at me for that. I guess overall it’s not what I wanted. As I’m typing this I feel like I wanted to feel like I was away from home for a bit.

I know the important thing is everyone being able to go without breaking the bank, having a good time, etc. maybe I just needed to vent that my trip won’t be what I thought it would be. 🤷‍♀️