Old people not clear on au pair tasks

More of a vent post than anything else.

Has anyone experienced older people ( your own parents or the grandparents of host kids) not fully understanding the duties of an au pair?

I find that grandparents of the host kids and even my own parents, expect more from me than what is legally required. It seriously enrages me that my parents tell me I should be doing more or that I’m not doing enough to help the family. The grandparents of the host kids think of the au pair as a full time housekeeper rather than an au pair that is not on call 24\7. I find that they also expect me to do heavy cleaning and work beyond my set hours.

As for my parents, they say that because I live with the family I work for, I should still play with the children even on my day off! I tried to explain that I’m not required to do this. I cannot get through to my parents that I am doing exactly what I am meant to be doing and if I do more then I’m going to be blurring lines. They also say that I should be cleaning more, to which I explained that I cannot do deep cleaning, as that is illegal. ( I do the basic cleaning of the children’s mess that they make and tasks like the dishwasher )

The host family is happy with me and never overworks me or expects me to do more than what is legal. I also explained this to my parents, but again they think I’m doing too little.

Has anyone experienced anything like this from their parents? I’m more frustrated about it than I am upset.