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Lab_Rat_97

How to deal with dating, if live keeps throwing one curve ball after another?

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So, I (M28) have taken a bit of a break from dating, for the last view months, after I just had no bandwith for it due to work stuff and a couple of bad experiences following the end of a 3 month situationship.

To cut a long story short, shortly after I got my shit back in order my employer decided out of nowhere to lay off my entire team, surprising me with a nice little return to unemployment. Second time something like this has happend to me within 3 years.

Frankly I am growing quite frustrated and a bit lost about the entire situation. I am in my late 20s now and frankly career advancement and job stability, I expected to have with a Masters degree in biotechnology, just does not seem to materialize. The last time I looked for a job it took me off the dating market for about 1.5 years as I was not dating while looking for a job and busy rebuilding from the psychological damage and self-esteem issues the job search had caused. If I am doing the same thing now, I will be 30 again and have been out of a serious longterm relationship for half decade, which also seems like a serious red flag.

Friends have pushed me to restart dating anyways, though frankly it feels like a bit of a waste of time of energy, as I am fully aware that the date will most likely get a bit akward as soon as "what do you do for a living question comes up.". For reference, I am write now focusing on the job hunt, my social life and have returned to university ( free here, so no loan issues).

How are fellow millenials/GenZ in the same boat regarding job/ general life stability, handing this? You just given up on dating or still trying, even if your life is a bit of a mess right now? If the latter, how are you framing the whole situation to make it hopefully more palatable for the people you are meeting?

Posted Mar 8, 2026, 5:54 PM UTC

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