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How common is to find such a guy ?

Ask r/Twenties

How common is it to find a guy who:

Is dedicated to working on his career (but not to the point that he has sold his soul).

Is loyal and respectful to the core.

Works on his appearance. Height doesn't matter, but hygiene and the way he carries himself do.

Doesn't use social media much, or at least isn't addicted to Instagram or wasting time on it.

Isn't misogynistic.

Doesn't have a female best friend or doesn't flirt with his female friends .

Is straightforward and doesn't play mind games or say sugar-coated nonsense.

Doesn't have an ego but also doesn't lack self-respect (and understands the difference between the two).

Is kind but also rational and doesn't let emotions control his decisions.

Isn't overly religious and doesn't get easily influenced by celebrities, influencers, or trends.

Has genuinely moved on from his exes or past crushes.

If he doesn't have a good sense of humor, he shouldn't try to force it

Is not too clingy or someone who wants to talk after every one hour . A bit clingy is still good.

Basically a man who is: self-aware, disciplined emotionally regulated not validation-seeking not attention-seeking not ego fragile not manipulative not socially performative

Posted Mar 8, 2026, 5:56 PM UTC

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