34 [M4F] - Minnesota - Looking for my nerdy other half!

Hello internet! As the title says, I'm a 34 year old guy looking for his forever! I am looking for a PARTNER. I have no interest in anything open, cheaters, or anything else. I find it hard to wrap my head around what people label as monogamy these days. I'm pretty bad at writing things like this but here we go, I've got a lasagna in the oven and time to kill lol.

About me: I'm 5'9 (because apparently it matters), 130lbs with a "skinny/fit build". I have 6 piercings and too many tattoos to count, planning on ink over most of my body. Going through a divorce that's taking entirely too long (out of my control). We've lived apart for a year and have been separated longer than that. I wanted to throw that out there right away. I can't have kids anymore but am dad to her son who I raised the majority of his life. He's not going anywhere and that's non negotiable for me. That's the hard stuff. I work 2 jobs currently but am willing/able to make time for the right person! Outside of work I have a few hobbies I enjoy. I play games for one. All kinds. Video games, board games, card games, ttrps, etc. They keep my mind active and I like the challenge sometimes. I especially enjoy MtG. I'm a forever DM (aren't we all lol) so I fancy myself creative and able to think on my feet. I was a chef for almost a decade and a half, though I don't work in kitchens anymore, so I can definitely make us some good food. I really like to read as well. Mostly fantasy and sci-fi but will occasionally pick up a good horror/thriller as well. I like most fandoms (D&D, Star Wars, LotR, and Harry Potter are some of my favorites) as well as anime. Movies are a great way for me to relax as well. I've been getting back into crafts lately. I've found perler beads to be really cool and relaxing, and I really want to get a pottery wheel. I did a lot of clay stuff when I was younger and I really miss it. I also ride my motorcycle, look for cool rocks (which I polish myself), go swimming when the weather allows, and have recently got back into exercising. Going for walks in my freetime is also something I have made a habit of. I live alone with my two cats. I have ADHD, so I'm kind of forgetful sometimes, and probably why this post is hard to follow lol. I collect books and figures. I really enjoy deep conversations with the people I care about. I like to think I'm pretty open minded and self aware. I've done a lot of inner work lately and know who I am/what I want. I don't have many expectations, but I won't settle either. People will ask, my love languages are physical touch (yea yea yea, not what you're thinking already) and acts of service (more so remembering little things about me like my favorite candy and thinking of me while you're at the store). I smell BS a mile away, so please, come in with intention.

About you: I want someone who also knows who she is. I understand we all change as we live our lives, but if you can't offer any opinions on anything, you won't be a match for me. I'm a big personality and want someone similar. Don't be afraid to tell me what you want or make decisions. Many people kind of leave me feeling like I have to run everything and I don't like that. Initiative is attractive! I really hope we can share interests and morals. Be kind to people, understand that differences make the world go 'round, be open minded, don't take differing opinions as hostility, and be open to both going on spontaneous adventures as well as spending an entire day as a vegetable with me on the couch lol. For the love of all thats holy, please be clean and hygienic... I don't live in filth and won't change that for you. Like I said earlier, not many expectations besides being a good human and loving me for me. What you do for work isn't important to me either. Just be a responsible adult. Oh, and if you're also cute, great lol.

If I don't sound like I suck, shoot me a DM! I'm willing to send my picture in a message as I understand physical attraction is important. Hope to hear from my person!