AIO 24M or is this manipulative behavior from my gf 24F?

AIO or is this manipulative behavior from my gf?

She called me a bitch in a joking way so I kinda laughed like wtf then said I could never joke with her like that.

Then she immediately switched tones and said “you don’t get a leg to stand on, you don’t get a say because you called me a cunt (for the first time ever in 3 years together) two weeks ago”

-For context I had kind of been a bum around the house and didn’t help cook for two days (unusual for me/roles reversed). In a rage, she screamed at me “you’re fucking useless” so I reacted by calling her a cunt. I soon after profusely apologized and have regretted it since.

Recently, if she had replied with what do you mean, I would have explained. Instead, she put me down after I called her out on pushing how far she can joke.

So because she did that I said you’re being a hypocrite and I feel manipulated right now.

These words hypocritical and manipulative triggered her and she started raising her voice saying I can’t call her those things and repeated how I called her a cunt two weeks ago.

I was just trying to acknowledge that she teeters the line of what can and can’t be said in a way that would anger or bother her if it were coming from me. And that if I spoke to her how she speaks to me, it would be a serious problem and she’d be immediately upset.

Instead of validating that possibility, she told me I don’t get a say because of what I had called her two weeks ago in a fight.

We talked about this for twenty minutes afterwards and she claims I should have approached her in a more delicate way but it bothered me and I simply said I could never talk to you like you talk to me sometimes.

She claims what she said about the situation wasn’t manipulative, just a justified reaction.

AIO or is this manipulative behavior on her part?