Divorce and children

I’m still living with STBX husband with 12 and 13 year olds. Sometimes I feel strong about facing this unknown future, but what has me so stuck is the kids.

How can I sit them down and tell them their life as they know and love it is no longer going to exist, and everything will be worse for them going forward. Less time with each parent , end of family time together, holidays, moving between two homes , less money for nice things etc ,

I think my STBX knows I’m afraid to do this so is happily plodding along living here in comfort and with full access to the children rather than face the reality of a separation.

We don’t argue, but I understand the marriage is over. I wanted to work on it, he has checked out.

I want him out of the house , as I want to start living building my new life. I am 50 so don’t hold hopes of meeting anyone else (pickings are next nothing around these parts) but I’m finding it so so difficult to do this to our children, . They don’t deserve this.

We live in a low divorce country so it’s not as common as it is in the USA .

I just can’t bring myself to tell them

Anyone relate?