Is it wrong if you don't want to be the emotional support of a friend in an abusive relationship?

You know, when some women get into relationships were they clearly are being stepped on, belittled and even physically affected and you already had 10 conversations in which she is complaining about the guy and saying "she's the worst" and you have reassured her but she's still in the same hole or getting deeper in the hole every time and she doesn't want to seek mental help either.

I just, I figured at that point I was enabling her to continue because she wasn't fully feeling the toll of the abuse in her by me being an emotional escape.

So I stopped like engaging with anything related to their partner and just deviating the subject, giving very short answers when asked about that.

And I just feel so much better because I also don't have to walk on eggshells or try to "convince" her of anything, that was exhausting.

At the end I figured it is her relationship and trying to "save" a grown woman is infantilizing her. She can save herself if she wanted to and you can't make the decisions for her either. I think respecting someone's autonomy is also letting them make the decisions that make them happy, even if that's a real life rage watch.

So no, I don't give advice, pity or anything that gives an emotional escape. I think that would delay her recovery, I still love her though, she's a great person.