Struggling to get a 2nd date?

Hi so been on 2 first dates recently and they have both fallen off before the 2nd date.

The first one we met in December and then she was going away for a month over Christmas. Recently in late Feb we matched again, we had a good flirty back and forth and banter over text, but it has been quite hard to arrange a 2nd date with her. Like just slightly hard to make the plan with, answering my question with another question, like making the logistics hard. I get that a mixed signal is a signal, and she probably isn’t that interested so I’m moving on here. One of her main things was that I wanted to go home and she said I could’ve gone back to hers!

Had another date yesterday and we had drinks and all good. Couple of rounds and decent banter and conversation and some mild flirting, there was some chance for me to really sexualise or be more “pick up artist” vibe but I just didn’t want to go there. She did seem more “looking for fun” type, wanted to go to other bars, trying to get me to drink alcohol and so on, we had a lot in common, I walked her back to her apartment with my arm around her - I text her after the date saying I had a good time, she reciprocated saying it was good getting to know me, I said I’d like to meet you again, and then that message has been ignored for like a full day, ghosted.

Unsure what’s going on really - do people expect to have sex on the first date or loose attraction? Or am I just doing something wrong on the dates, not sexualising or flirting enough? I feel it’s too soon. I’ve done sex on first dates before and by month 3 you regret it when the relationship was built on sex/lust and not attraction or more deep emotional connection.