I want to be a dad?

Hi everyone!

I’m 29, I’ve been married for almost 3 years and before that me and my wife we’ve been together for 10 years.

We’ve always been really open with each other (and the world) about not wanting kids.

We wanted to travel the world, have experiences, not being attached to anywhere and enjoy our money and our lifes.

We did all those stuff. We are from Argentina but we lived in Berlín, Paris, Nice and many other places. We’ve travel a lot and now we want to settle down and have some more stability in our lifes, not taking a plane every 3 months.

Now we’ve started to feel that, maybe we want to have kids. I see people with kids looking really happy, I see reels or tik toks about having a child, being a family in a house with the dog and I feel like I kinda want it. I want to feel that love that parents feel for their kids, being there for them, Support them, see them grow older, go to school meetings, everything.

I think that what makes me think that I want to have kids is that, when I picture myself in 30 years as an old man, I imagine a family with kids coming to visit for Christmas , holidays, Sunday’s lunch.

But on the other hand, I don’t know if I can be the role model that my kid should have. I don’t know if I’ll be able to not sleep again for the next months/years. I’m afraid of not being able to handle it and that that break my marriage. The sexual aspect is also a thing, would I be able to not have sex for the next year? I think so, but what if I wouldn’t?

I have so many fears and questions and I don’t have friends to talk about this, all of them are single and only interested in party and drugs, so probably not the best people to get advice.

It would really help me if you could share some thoughts.