Not checking the 3D, but bumping into it unintentionally?

I’ve had a crush on a guy from my gym for months. At one point I became pretty obsessed with him and his behavior. We’ve had intense eye contact, he smiled at me, talked to me a few times and even helped me twice with equipment, but we never exchanged numbers. His behavior has always been hot and cold. I also know he has a girlfriend, I’ve actually seen them together three times in the most random situations.

Because I see him at the gym often, I started analyzing everything he did, where he looked, if he smiled, if he ignored me, etc. It became exhausting.

About 1.5 weeks ago I realized that if I’m constantly checking the 3D and his behavior, then I’m clearly not living in the end. So I decided to stop arranging my gym schedule around him and just go when it works for me.

Last week we didn’t see each other at all because I avoided his usual workout time.

But today something strange happened. I was completely minding my own business, working, running errands, even stuck in traffic, and ended up going to the gym later than usual, at a time when he normally finishes his workout. When I got there he wasn’t there, so I assumed he had already left.

10 MINUTES later he literally walked into the gym!!!

It caught me off guard and I didn’t want to fall back into the old pattern of watching and analyzing him. I avoided looking at him and just focused on my workout. After a while he came closer and started training near me. Normally I would analyze everything, but this time I stayed cold, did my sets, and left the gym without talking to him.

Now I’m wondering: when people say “don’t check the 3D,” what are you actually supposed to do when you keep physically running into your desire like this? I don’t want to force anything in the 3D, but completely ignoring him also feels a bit strange.

How do you deal with the 3D when you see your person often in real life?