Stonewalled by my mother as an adult.

I am 29 and my mother is 59, I have been going through therapy recently due to several factor's including my brother's passing away last year.

Therapy might be opening my eyes to the fact that my mother whilst being great 80% of the time, might be a narcissist.

She is stonewalling me since Saturday last week. Me and my 7 month pregnant wife were supposed to visit her for the weekend however my wife felt something unsettling with the baby and we decided to stay home, let her rest and go to our hospital if anything would happen.

I called her on saturday morning after my wife didn't sleep all night that we will not be coming because we we're worried. I could instantly hear in her voice that she was unhappy, she didn't ask what is wrong with her grandchild or my wife, she just said she knows what we're up to and that she cooked all this food and I was supposed to help her with fixing her boiler.

I tried explaining to her that this is my wife and her grandchild's health we're talking about but I don't think it reached to her.

Simillar situations happened including last year where she made a scene and started crying when we were over at her place and my wife started feeling sick in first months of pregnancy (my wife ended up catching Covid) - but I didn't catch then it could have been a manipulation tactic.

What hurts me the most is she didn't even reach out to ask how my wife or our baby is. It feels incredibly cruel as I have always been there for her and helped her in any way she asked even if it didn't suit me because it was easier than dealing with her anger.

Does it ever get better if you confront a parent like that or are they usually too set in their ways?