my (22f) boyfriend (m22) reddit porn history is making me question everything... how do i bring it up ?

soooooo buckle in

we've been together 1.5 years but i had a gut feeling and i went thru his phone tonight.

for context, he doesn't normally keep reddit on his phone bc we've spoken about porn before and how bad it can be both for society and individuals. however, he has told me he used to have an issue w porn/masturbating when he would get depressed. he told me that though he now tried to stop, he would sometimes just download reddit again to watch porn and deleted it again. i've never made it clear how i **really** feel about him watching porn tbh and i think that is my mistake.

we were going thru a rough patch around early last week and it was interrupted by a very early-detected pregnancy on friday... we talked about it and decided we're not prepared for a child; we're both in school, living w/ our parents, not mentally prepared at all to be parents, the time is just not right so, we opted to do a medical termination. it's been hard emotionally and physically for me tbh. if any females (biological term not derogatory lol) here have gone through it, you know. it's been sooo much blood, pain, sweat, and tears.

well earlier today, he made a joke about some incel kitchen subreddit ??? i dont remember what the sub was called about it was something about incels putting their sad food and incel story times on there?? idk if that rings a bell for ppl but anyway... he told me about some dude who posted who had a porn addiction and that was saying he was so far gone, he had to watch scat porn to cum... MAJOR SIDE EYE BTW!! we kinda talked about it and idk my instincts were telling me there was something sus about it.

sooo he was asleep before work and i went thru his reddit history tonight...

a few days after i told him i was pregnant, he was jerking his dick to some reddit porn videos that i guess he likes. the videos were old and random making me assume, he just had them saved. i know he really likes head. so obviously, it was a lot of that kinda porn. i know he likes big asses. so, a lot women like that too... a lot of these women look nothing like me... i get that porn isn't real but it's just so hurtful. OHHH and the scat porn thing!! he had it in his history...

he's bi and so am i, we're both very kinky but he has never directly expressed these feelings to me. in hindsight, i can see how he's made jokes about it before but that's not a direct conversation.

tbh, id rather him watch videos of us having sex than him watching other people. i love recording sex tapes w my partner and im very open but when we do record, he's very judgement about how he looks on camera; which, im assuming is why, he watches what he does...

WHATS UPSETTING ME! is that he was watching this, the day i was going over to his house to do the medical termination. mind you, his phone is pretty fucking broken and he still managed to watch and search porn so it's even more crazy to me.

we both grew up catholic and have been very torn up about this choice. if i thought i could have it, i would have kept it with or without him but honestly, it rlly was the best choice for everyone.

i feel so upset... while i was crying every night, he was cumming to bitches taking a shit...

we're both in therapy to work on our own issues and trauma separately but i just feel so upset.

i don't know how to bring it up. i honestly kinda wanted to just take a break and back off for a little. however, i feel like i can't really blame him. especially, since i never really made it clear that i do NOT want him watching porn. that's a boundary that i now realized i have and if he's not okay with it, i simply don't want to pursue this relationship.

i feel like he might be too into the porn again.

our sex life is great by the way. we often have sex 2-3 times a day and we both initiate it. we both rlly enjoy having sex with each other, but i often can see how the porn he watches is reflected on his sexual preferences or maybe it's the other way around? i don't know.

how do i bring this up ???

tldr: my (22f) bf (22m) of 1.5 years has been watching crazy porn. i, now realize, it's a big boundary i have and don't feel comfortable w it. i went thru his reddit history and he's also been extremely insensitive about his timing. what course of action would be fairest ? how do i bring it up?