Am I wrong for telling my friend not to invite a girl to a birthday party because of how she acted on a group project and what she got me for Christmas

So basically me and this girl we had a falling out before Christmas because we were doing a group project together but she didn’t come into college for over a week. So I had to do a lot of it on my own.

I messaged her after two days asking why she hasn’t been it. No response. Again the next day. No response by day 4 and 5 I was quite harsh telling her she’s so lazy.

The next week she still wasn’t in I messaged her again on the Monday that this is ridiculous and if she’s not going to bother showing up she shouldn’t be in the course. The next day she finally replied saying her best friend past away and she’s been too depressed to go to class or check her phone. And she’s going to the funeral the next day and will be back the day after. I told her it’s not good enough really I’m sorry her friend passed away but she should tell me these things and still should come to class.

She cussed me out and blocked me. When she returned back she barely contibuted to the project at all for the first few days back. She did eventually contribute more but by then I’d done over half of it mostly on my own.

After the project was over with we didn’t really speak. But then at Christmas we did a secret Santa thing. When I opened mine I was shocked. It was skincare,a portable hair straightener, and a trendy tinted lipbalm.

I was offended. I wondered if it was passive aggressive why were they all about my looks? I went around asking everyone who got me it. The girl came up to me and said it was her and she just really likes those brands. I didn’t say anything. She showed me that she has the straightener too in her bag and really likes it and she knows I straighten my hair sometimes so it’s convenient. I said oh thank you. And she said she swears my the skincare brand and she has the tinted lip balm too but in a different colour but she thought that colour would look good on me.

It was really awkward. I told my friend at the time how weird that was. She said she might just have been thinking of getting that stuff for me because I like doing my hair and makeup. And I do but I get those stuff for myself why would I need someone to buy them for me? If my face and hair is already good why would she give me those?

I’ve been still avoiding talking to her. Next weekend one of my other friends is throwing a party for her birthday. We were discussing people to invite. She said about inviting people from our course I said that’s a good idea. She talked about maybe inviting the girl. I said no way. And explained about the project and the passive aggressive gift. My friend said she actually seems like a genuinely nice person. And that maybe she was having a rough time because of her friend and that I’m obsessed with beauty so she might have given me beauty products to be nice not mean.

I said it sucks her friend died but that’s not my problems and she called me a bitch for saying that and holding a grudge when I still got good marks on the project. And she seemingly didn’t hold a grudge since she went over budget on the Christmas Santa gifts for me. It was supposed to be 10 max and the products definitely came around to more than that.

I said that she probably only went over budget because she wanted to upset me. My friend said to believe whatever I want this all sounds immature and I’m making it a bigger deal than it needs to be and if I hate it so much to not use the stuff. And she knows for a fact I use the straightener often. So why am I acting like I hated the gifts I’m completely overreacting.