almost 22 and have yet to date at all, what is wrong with me?

Hello all, I am a 21 year old man that has friends, am in school trying to make something of my life, and am not a freak or anything to the best of my knowledge.

I have tried to date women for years, but since high-school I have never ever received any interest from women at all. I have tried every online dating app under the sun and spent lots of money on them. My college class is literally 95% women and I have no issue at all talking to them. I was actually voted to be in the student body type thing we have out of like 60 people in my class (that I did NOT ask for lol).

so wtf is wrong with me, there has to be something terribly wrong with me as a person that turns people off and I don‘t understand it. I take really good care of myself and honestly it’s ruining my life. All I have ever wanted is to be chosen by someone that I like.

what can I do if dating apps don’t work and in person doesn’t work? It literally leaves me with no motivation in my life and I have to force myself to do schoolwork and not just be a bum and drop out in hopes that maybe my life will improve in the future once I make money.

also I have done the whole self improvement thing, went to the gym, got rid of my bubbles ahh super nearsighted glasses, grown out my hair etc, to no avail.

any ideas? I feel absolutely hopeless tbh.

Posted Mar 14, 2026, 12:20 AM UTC

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