Ramblings of a man.

Society as a whole puts so much pressure on young woman to look or be a certain way it’s insane, I’m a guy myself but I tend to observe the world from a Birds Eye view when it comes to all different types of situations & things in general, I’ve come to realise how society pressures young woman to all look the same, walk the same, talk the same, it’s as if someone copied & pasted a bunch of woman & said there you go.

If there’s any woman here whom will read this post, I just want you to know that real men don’t actually look for external beauty as much as you’d think, society has made you believe that you need to look like a Barbie in a box for a man to find you desirable but in reality that’s not the truth, there’s so many more factors to what certain men find attractive, things like.. How nice are you to people who you don’t really need to be nice to? For example: if you’re walking down the street & you see a bin man working his shift, do you say hello? Do you say good morning? Do you offer to help someone who you really don’t have to help? & just small things like that I find us men really pick up on. We really don’t need you to be “perfect” we just need you to be you, the best version of yourself & to be authentic with it, of course looks are always a bonus but it’s not the main attribute! You could be walking down a beach & see a beautiful shell.. you go to pick it up & put it to your ear but wait… no sound? You carry on walking down the beach & find a shell that you don’t think looks as great but put it to your ear & hear a beautiful sound, the internal matters just as much as the external.

Everyone is beautiful in their own way & just because one guy doesn’t find you beautiful doesn’t mean the next won’t, it’s like me… I think seagulls are beautiful animals but my friend does not, it’s all preference! Don’t ever feel as if you’re not beautiful enough or worthy enough of love because you really are, I’m just sick & tired of seeing so many wonderful woman crippled by anxiety, worry and so self conscious due to societies pressures, don’t feel the need to get surgery for the sake of looking like somebody else as the way you look now is what makes you unique! If all woman start to look the same then it becomes too common & men will go ahead look for something else as once something comes too repetitive it becomes boring, just like Pokémon cards… you get a whole bunch of common cards that you just chuck away but that one unique shiny.. guarding it with your life.

Sorry for the ramblings, I just felt the need to share my thoughts on this topic & I hope it gives some sort of hope to woman that are struggling with feeling accepted.

P.S, Just because one guy out there put you down doesn’t mean the rest of the guys out there in the world will do the same, don’t let one guy ruin your chances of finding true love as just because one apple in the bunch is rotten doesn’t mean they all are!