Annoyance with the community

Just wanted to complain about some stuff I see on this sub. People are so rude and gatekeepy about the whole “this isn’t Lolita” argument the minute someone does something that’s slightly unique. It’s really frustrating and disheartening. It’s even worse when the person is new. Lolita doesn’t have to be some ridiculously strict style and there’s so much opportunity for innovation, but not when people constantly slam others for trying new things.