Dating with social anxiety

I’m 20M and have recently downloaded hinge to try and start dating. It feels like the apps make the most sense for someone with social anxiety because I can’t imagine myself approaching someone in person. Idk part of me feels like maybe I should prioritize on making friends first but I’m kinda trying to do both at the same time. I just feel so behind, most people have friends and experience love by this age and I just feel like these are essential parts of being alive that I can’t keep living without. It’s eating into my thoughts all the time to the point where I can’t focus on studying and tell myself I should instead focus on “becoming a person.”

Anyways, for those of you who have downloaded dating apps have you found success? If so how long did it take? Also what kind of pictures did you use for your profile? I had a really hard time with this since I don’t really have friends and don’t really go out that often so most of my pics are pretty boring. I try to make up for it by displaying my personality as best as I could through the prompts. I only downloaded it yesterday and already scrolled through all the people in my city in my age range and haven’t gotten any matches back and am starting to feel discouraged. Idk I know it’s early but it feels kinda hopeless rn.

Posted Mar 14, 2026, 12:29 AM UTC

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