+3 months, still not over my ex(es).

I was in a poly relationship. The dynamic was skewed, one of my exes held too much sway in the relationship. I didn’t see a future in the way i was treated by him, so i had to break things off with them all. This one guy was an self-absorbed asshole but the others in the poly were…some of my closest friends. I had to break off, for my own well being. The consequence of that was what I’ve heard referred to as a “social rupture.”

I’m currently more than 3 months post-breakup. Some days are easier than others. I still listen to songs that make me think of my other exes reminiscently. I saw a post saying humans, on average, only find passionate love twice in their lifetimes. I worry I spent my chance with people who loved others more than they loved me.

Without spiraling or ruminating on the topic, i’ve recognized that the emotions that are brought up from this experience are similar, if not identical, to the process of grief. You’ve got the whole five stages; Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression, Acceptance. I keep shifting back and forth between the initial four, even now. How can I move on from these people? I’m literally out and about every day scanning my surroundings, worried/hoping i’ll see the ex I liked, or daydream about telling off the ex i didn’t like. I feel like i’m stuck in this stage and I want to move on and find something else to fulfill me. Any advice?