AITAH for making my spouse wait while trying after they smoked pot.

My spouse, Heather (33), and I (34) have been trying to conceive for about 4 years now. It’s been mentally/emotionally exhausting for the two of us. Crying and depressed every month that goes by when she’s not pregnant and our friends are on either baby 2 or 3. It got to the point where we decided to take a break for a while to focus on our relationship. After we remedied our stress around trying to conceive, we both decided to try again. We both got tested and our results came back more or less fine. So we shrugged it off, started taking reproductive meds, and are starting to try again. (One month unsuccessful after starting again)

This is the first month back at attempting to get pregnant and heather decided that, while away with friends on a vacation, to smoke pot. I just picked her up from the airport this morning. We are supposed to be trying tonight because she’s in her fertile window. Excited that this time it might different that we are more regulated, she then told me that she got high on her trip. I said I was upset/mad and explained that having the THC in her can cause complications in a pregnancy. Even if she’s just about to become pregnant because it’ll be in her system for a little bit. Maybe I am wrong in how it can affect the implantation or development of a potential baby but I can’t help to cry and feel mad at her careless thinking.

I am just sitting here so upset and crying because after all the years of trying, she just decides to do this right as we are starting again. I don’t want to try this month to give it time for the THC to leave her system and I know this is going to cause an issue.

AITAH for wanting to not try this month and being mad at her for this? Also any suggestions on how to approach this conversation would be appreciated. I’ll post an update on how our conversation goes.

P.S. we are on meds to boost our chances and have seen multiple different doctors over the last couple months to help.