Moral scrupulosity/ROCD help

Hi all,

I’m dealing with a scrupulosity/ROCD spiral and could use advice on coping strategies.

Here’s what happened:

• I posted on a relationship advice Reddit about feeling unhappy in my relationship.

• A stranger privately messaged me asking invasive questions, like if our sex life changed or if my appearance changed.

• I replied “no not really” I purposely kept it brief and surface level because I started feeling uncomfortable and did not want to share personal details like that in a private chat.

• They then said something like “you deserve better” and might have hinted that my boyfriend lost interest… I honestly can’t remember exactly. I remember replying “ok, thank you.”

• They asked what I looked like and sent a photo of themselves in sunglasses. I reminded them I have a boyfriend and asked why it matters what I look like and that Reddit is supposed to be anonymous, and they said “true true.” That was the end of it.

I cannot stop replaying the conversation and trying to figure out whether this counts as cheating or not. The fact that I even answered them makes me sick to my stomach and I feel like if I don’t tell my boyfriend about this interaction I’m deceiving him and he’s wasting his time with me. They obviously had horrible intentions and I should’ve stopped answering sooner. I don’t know how to move on from this. At one moment I’ll feel fine, and then something will trigger and I’ll start spiraling again. Whenever the thought comes up, I try to label it as ocd (as a coping strategy) but then my brain will challenge that and say I’m just using ocd as an excuse and that I actually did cheat. Does anyone have any advice for me or have gone through something similar?