My first EMDR is coming up

I just found out my counselor is about to start offering EMDR and I’m mostly excited.

My trauma comes from mom and my spouse. I’m no contact with my mom and my spouse and I have been going to counseling and trying to get better.

But it’s hard for me to move on from the past. I think he’s really trying but when the smallest thing comes up I stack it on top of everything else that’s happened and it feels like an ever growing mountain.

I want to do the EMDR to help me get past the trauma and give him a real chance. He also said he’d do it too to help with his childhood trauma that led to his issues we have now.

My question is, has anyone been through EMDR and it helps with relationship trauma and healing to the point you really step back and see the whole picture and then choose to end a relationship? Or does it help you forgive and move through things and find closeness again? Especially if both partners do it?

Either way, I’m not going to let other experiences stop me from doing it. I’m just curious to hear what others have gotten from it in similar situations.

I want to be at peace and be me again, its been a long road and finding EMDR seems like the hand I’ve been searching for to help me from drowning.