How do men feel about big and “messy” hair?

I know it’s probably not the desired hair ever lol but is it like awful or a dealbreaker?

I’ve had insane hair since like middle school lol, just very curly and thick and coarse. I would always either straighten it or use curly hair products and stuff, but styling it is my least favorite thing ever and I’m at a point in life where I’m too tired to style it or to even find the time to style it anymore. Now I just wash and condition it then let it air dry and I love it this way, but my hair is definitely wild lol.

It’s just unstyled curly hair but it’s more like messy and stuff now and it’s been called like “hippie hair” and “bed head” before. Idk I love how easy it is to just let it air dry and go but I’m wondering how bad it looks to other people especially guys lol.