Wife (31F) left me (30M) and is having a baby with another man because I’m asexual.

I’m a corporate attorney. My wife is a doctor, and she’s absolutely stunning and in amazing shape.

I just could never get physically aroused for her very often because the idea of sex has never and still doesn’t interest me.

I don’t like men, and I like masturbating, just not sex.

I was a virgin until I met my wife. Sex always felt awkward and strained because we could only do it in the morning because that was the only time I could ever get a boner and it wasn’t from her.

The wife worked out and ran nearly every day, and she would get angry and tell me it was because she was so sexually frustrated that it was her only outlet for stress. She said my asexuality caused her to feel terrible about her physical attractiveness often.

I wanted to try for a baby, but she did not. Instead about a month later, she filed for divorce. The divorce hasn’t even been finalized yet (6 months ago), and she’s been seeing a partner at my law firm and I just learned she’s 3 months pregnant with his child because my friend told me they saw it on her Facebook (I’m blocked). I’m absolutely devastated. I know it is unlikely to be mine because it has been 8 months since we last slept together and she would’ve been much bigger at that stage.

And this asshole is above me at my firm, 39 years old, and acts like I don’t exist.

Thankfully it’s a large law firm so I don’t see him often, but when I do it’s like a punch in the gut. I don’t think I should have to be punished for my sexuality. It’s not like I did it against her.

How do I get through this?