Feeling so disheartened - filed 17 months ago and we are still no closer to divorce

I feel like I'm never going to be free of my toxic ex. After 18 years of marriage, my ex had a nervous breakdown and became abusive so I left. Flash forward, I had to get a DVRO, I've been stalked and harassed, he's gone through at least 4 different lawyers, and missed 5 deadlines to file his financial disclosure (even after one of his lawyers made me go through 200+ pages of interrogatories). The judge just keeps giving him extensions and, meanwhile, no child or spousal support being paid despite being required. We just got another extension yesterday. I don't even have a question, just here to vent. It's my first time here so not even sure if this will get posted.