I'm not exactly sure what I should do

Me [19M] and my partner [18NB] have been having a serious problem lately and nothing I say or do is fixing anything. Anything that I say gets either turned back around on me or made to be that it doesn't matter. I love my partner more than anything, but it's a detriment to be with them and I have no idea what to do. I can't bring myself to leave because it isn't what I want, but it's the only way that I can see of it getting better is to cut it out. I've tried damn near everything else and nothing is working.