In an online bdsm dynamic, who should make the most effort to meet up in real life?

The most we’ve ever done is video chat; I spend all my time fantasising about meeting up with him. We both live in different countries, and I was wondering whether, in situations like this, it’s usually the dom who comes to meet up, or is that the sub’s responsibility? Video calls are completely different from what we’d do if we met in real life; this breaks my heart deeply

He’s older than me and earns more money than I do. Even though I save up to go out with him, I always feel like a fool because he didn’t really make any plans regarding meeting up in real life