Manipulation and Mixed Signals (LONG STORY AHEAD)

Si guy may anakis na pwede hindi niya gusto from another girl na hindi naman niya jowa tapos off and on pa sila nang actual jowa niya. Si actual jowa mag ga-gaslight ki guy kapag may nalalaman like ma flirt sa ibang babae kasi ang palabas ni guy is single siya.

And may history na matagal si guy tapos nung girl niya nang cheating like revenge type.. so, parehas sila nagmamanipulate sa isat isa. Then, si actual jowa is tinutulongan si guy na iaccept yung anak niya sa labas.

Then nameet niya yung friend ko, nagkikita sila since parehas nang university ang pasok nila. The guy introduced as a single guy not knowing his background or like tinatago niya.

After nila mag get to know each other, may nangyari sakanila and then they got closer.. the guy told his trauma's in life in regards sa family niya, the way people treated him, and how he is scared of people.

So, si frienny ko gusto siyang tulongan because the guy was basically hopeless in life and nafe-feel niya na kailangan niyang tulongan si guy because they have shared experiences with depression and self harming.

Then after months.. the actual jowa ni guy na sinasabi niyang wala sila, nag contact ki frienny ko saying na "You don't know me, but i'm his girlfriend.. are you happy now that you ruined a relationship?" Edi si frienny ko naman ayaw i confront ki guy kasi he's in a bad mental health...

Apparently, the guy is not being supported at his home.. like his parents rarely gives him money, not close to him, he even complain about how scarce the food is sa bahay na he is in since seperate house siya from his parents but staying with lolo, and his sister and brother. Also, the guy does not sleep well because of insomnia sa dami niyang problema sa buhay.

Kaya si frienny ko, gives him money when he needs, helps with the assignments and encourages him to go to school. Kahit saan na gala kasama siya then sagot niya din ang pagkain kasi alam niya na hindi pa kumakain si guy.

Back to the topic doon sa nag message yung actual jowa niya ki frienny. Jusko ang haba nang story na to para makuha niyo yung context kasi ako gigil na! Need ko nang advice kung ano pa ba ang mabibigay ko na advice sa frienny ko at sa guy na yan!

So, ayun na nga.. ayaw ni frienny na ikwento ki guy kasi baka lalo maging worse yung mental health niya... pero i told her and its the right way to go since siya lang naman makaka ayos nyan.

It took like 1-2 months bago na sabi ni frienny ki guy about doon sa nagchat sakanya and sabi ni guy na yan yung ex niya na palagi silang on and off na nagcheat sakanya with his friend.

So, si frienny naman na akala niya ex lang na hindi maka move on. Then isang araw nag inoman sila at sa kalasingan ni frienny umiyak siya ki guy kung bakit ganito ganyan kasi apparently, the guy have been lying ki frienny ko na lahat nang sinasabi niyang "takot siya" ginagawa niya naman sa iba't ibang girls. Kaya hindi na alam nang frienny ko if he's lying pa ba or telling the truth.

Then sabi ni guy na one time, yung may nangyari sakanila.. gusto daw tlga ni guy na maging sila nang frienny ko kasi he feel safe and secured daw. 🙄 (kung pwede lang tlga ihampas si guy sa wall). After that night, hindi na sila naguusap.

Then nalaman nang frienny ko na nagiging close na pala si guy doon sa friend niya din (which yung friend na yun is alam kung anong meron sakanilang dalawa). And apparently yung friend nang frienny may crush pala doon sa guy dati na, hindi lang siya close dati.

Nagsabi sakin si frienny na bigla na lang daw sila naging close and halata naman sa circle of friends nila na they are too close for just being "friends" to the point na naiilang na si supposed to be friend niya.. pero si guy hindi naman naiilang sakanya...

Si frienny ko.. gusto ko na tlga ilagay sa mental hospital kasi alam pati si god naiinis na din sakanya.. apparently, si frienny ko tinutulongan parin si guy when he ask for help.. like, girl alam ko naman mabait ka pero this is too much na. HE IS A WALKING KUMIKINANG INANG RED FLAG.

Ang sabi niya sakin, they don't talk anymore and civil na lang ang actions niya ki guy kasi karma na lang tlga bahala sakanya atleast siya is nagiging mabait na tao sakanya.

People summary details:

Si guy: • Manchild • Sadboi • Have insomnia • Done with life (but continue to add problems in his life like flirting with other people) • Lies a lot (feeling ko innate na ang pagiging sinungaling niya) • Pushover • Does not want to change (kahit na sinasabi niya gusto niya pero takot daw siya) 🙄 • Walang plano sa buhay. • nasa college na for 8 years and counting. • Has a lot of traumas (whether self inflicted or done by others, family, people at school (ex. Professors, classmates, friends). • Does not listen and will gaslight and manipulate for his own gain. (Always sinasabi na he does not deserve this and siya palagi ang may mali) • Likes to do thirst trap and send it to people

Frienny's "Friend" • gusto maging close ki frienny pero hindi naman gumagawa nang effort para maging close sila • manipulator (sasabihin na okay na problem pero mahahalata mo sa galaw na gusto niya ma feel mo din yung pinagdaanan niya.. ex. Feeling left out then will make the others feel it in a revenge type of way). • Hates men "daw" (pero nagpapaentertain) • attention-seeker (nagtatampo kapag wala sakanya ang attention nang mga tao) • gusto siya palagi nabibigyan nang effort but will not give the effort back.

Actual jowa ni guy (ewan ko dyan kung sila ba tlga or hindi na) • Cheater (according ki guy) • nag chat ki frienny na (tinatago niya ako pero matagal na kami) • gusto palagi may update kung ano ginagawa ni guy (like lahat nang galaw)

Frienny ko • Tanga sa pagibig (super) • pushover malala • Tigas nang ulo • Taas nang pride

Almost forgot, sinabihan na yan ni frienny ko si guy na kailangan niya magbawas nang kinakaestress niya kasi hindi na kinakaya ni guy mentally.. si guy naman pati feeling niya lahat na lang kasalanan niya kahit hindi naman. (Probably his guilt or what 🙄).