Rigidity in fetishes makes broadly connecting difficult

This is yet another post about my humping fetish.

I’ve attempted to make more connections with people who are into humping, especially other women. Unfortunately I find that the conversation doesn’t focus as much on the mutual masturbation aspect of it that really gets me going and it very quickly makes continuing those conversations difficult. A lot of the times the convos start out with us sharing our methods and our origins of discovery, but then it often switches to “I’d love to scissor/trib with you” and I just internally sad face. Not that I’m not flattered or find doing that unattractive, I just get bummed cuz my preferred topic isn’t being focused on. I feel a bit bad that my rigidity finding someone who wants to talk about mutual masturbation has caused me to ghost a couple people. On the other hand, I don’t have time to keep up with conversations I don’t feel keep my interest.

Any one else struggle with conversations like this?