Manifestation and perspective.

Something i feel thats really underrated and less talked about in the manifestation community is the power of perspective. To illustrate this, let me give an example:

Like many of you, i too have struggled the most with relationships. I have PTSD, anxiety, ROCD and basically anything that can be put in a box of unsafety and relationships. While i deeply desire relationships, i spend most of my time avoiding it, or accepting low-risk breadcrumbs to avoid feeling vulnerable and exposed.

Now everytime any of my low-risk boyfriends broke up with me, i’d still be shattered, heartbroken, anxious and obsessed for days. I take EMDR therapy, and have lately (since a year) started practicing other spiritual tools like “letting go” and “radical acceptance”. While these tools helped me immensely, a relationship or closeness still has the power over me to completely derail me. This obviously comes from the lack of my own emotional unavailability.

Through this journey of manifestation, i have come to realise that manifestation techniques should feel fun, even though it may not be the easiest thing to do everytime. One thing that really helps me during these times is not to think in terms of loss, rather to think in terms of expansion and power. For example:

Earlier “i have lost this person, i must do xyz techniques obsessively to get them back” which is still about thinking in terms of loss, puts you in a lot of pressure and basically ends up not working at all.

Now: “this moment shatters me, but it’s a perfect opportunity to expand myself into someone i have never been before. Im excited to see how these xyz techniques help me”. Now this calms your amygdala and your subconscious is more receptive. Also, remember, it’s never about the destination, rather about the journey. During these times, you might even develop really beautiful relationships with other people. I spent most of my time being so emotionally unavailable, that i never even had any genuine close friends. But now, it’s the complete opposite.

One thing i really wanna ask the anxious attachers: if the kind of love you desired right now was to pop up right now, would you be able to handle it? If you’re being honest and the answer is no, then my friend, you’re perpetuating the same cycle of emotional unavailability that caused it :)

Xx