Confession face to face vs through the grate?

Good morning!

As priests, do you prefer when someone confesses face to face or anonymously through the grate?

I didn’t grow up Catholic, I was baptized last year, been to confession once and I am ready to go again. My first confession, I was so nervous that I went to the next parish over - still very close by as I live in a big city.

Now, I feel like the right thing to do is to go to my own parish and I’m scared. I’m going to do it but I’m nervous…. My first confession I knelt at the grate next to the priest, but for this one I’m thinking maybe I should be face to face.

My question is a) what isn usual from normal Catholics ? Aka face to face or kneeling by the grate. And b) what is the priest’s preference? Would you prefer it’s anonymous or do you want to know who you’re talking to?

Please let me know!