Need Advice

Hi!

So my girlfriend (23F) and I (22F) have been together for about 5months now. While I have only dated women in the past, she is my first ever proper relationship. She has been the best girlfriend ever, better that I could have imagined and our emotional connection is amazingly strong. I think it is good to mention I have OCD and especially relationship OCD right now. What it does is that it makes you question everything: what if i’m not really in love? What if i’m not attracted to her etc. while rationally I know I am. The issue with OCD is that it loves to attach on negative things, ANYTHING that could prove that we are not meant to be together and i’m supposed to breakup, it can be as simple as we don’t have the same favorite color and my brain will pick up on that and convince me that because of that, i have to break up. It is hell but I have been in therapy for a good year and a half and it toned down so much that i can live without meds.

However, the one situation that gives me so much anxiety is when we are in social situations, with my friends specifically. I cannot help myself but eves-drop on the interactions between my girlfriend and my friends. If we are at a party i cannot concentrate on socialising and i can only pay attention to what she is saying to see if she says anything my Friends could interprate badly or if she understands my friends’ humour, I am working on that in therapy because it is literally horrible to think the way I think but sometimes I cant help it. I do not show her anything and do not tell any of my ocd thoughts because it would be unfair and seeking reassurance is not good.

i am explaining all of this for context on the situation i need advice for.

So she is very lively and social and asks questions to people which I really like about her. However, i realised that she tends to talk about herself a lot in conversation, and i do not think it is because she is narcissistic at all, i think it is more so to relate with the person she is talking to. I saw however, how uncomfortable some people and myself can be when she does that. Another thing is that even though she asks questions, I don’t think she listens actively to what people are saying so her answers are not always very “nice”.

The reason why i mentioned the ocd, is that this may only be me overthinking but also i could be right.

In any case, what would you do? Would you tell her, of course not in a condescending way but more so in a worried for her social interactions.

Because she has friends but I do think she has a hard time making people stick to her because of that sometimes.

I really don’t know what to do and the last thing i want is for her to be anxious and worry too much because of a thing I said.

If anyone has any advice or can relate please let me know!!

Thank you for reading :)