My boyfriend (m24) and I (m24) both have a crush on the same person, however we don't want to ruin the friendship with him. How do we get the feelings to stop?

Like the title says, we both have had a crush on our friend (25m). We've known this person for a little over half a year, and the feelings have been there for a couple of months now.

Our friend is a very sweet person. We message everyday, mostly because he's been going through a breakup and it's been rough on him. We knew him since before the breakup, so we wanted to be there for him. He really appreciates us talking to him everyday.

The problem is, the feelings are still there, yes there may have been times we looked into things and how they feel a bit too deeply, but this is getting a bit uncomfortable for us because he is our friend and we obviously don't want to stop talking because he appreciates us and is going through a rough time, and also we appreciate his friendship.

Personally for me, it's been driving me insane. I don't want these feelings but they are there.

I don't think that they feel the same way.

Tldr: my boyfriend and I have a crush on this guy who's going through a rough time, we don't want to ruin the friendship, we just want the feelings to stop.