CMV: People who are uncomfortable near/in cemeteries have unprocessed grief, have not received adequate human love in their life, or both.

To me, cemeteries are important, beautiful places, full of love, and are a testament to our human experience of community. I don't remember ever feeling differently, but it has been something that has come up more in the last few years.

I go for a long evening walk in a cemetery weekly. It's an important routine for me of reflection. I guess I see cemeteries as a sort of well of human love. Like, if you made a heat map showing humans experiencing love vs fear, cemeteries would be these overwhelming nodes of love. To me, my weekly walk is like immersing myself in love, both past and present. Kind of like how I would feel in a church, I guess, if I were religious.

A few times, I have mentioned to someone where I am going for a walk, or just returned from, when asked and they have responded with a comment that surprises me. Although it does surprise me anymore, I guess. Some comment about being creeped out by cemeteries, that they would be uncomfortable walking there, or that they don't understand cemeteries and they should really just be regular park space instead. The only way I can understand this is that there must be some unresolved trauma in their past. Either they don't understand love enough to understand loving the dead, or they have had a traumatic loss in their past that they still haven't come to terms with. I genuinely just don't understand.

Ways to change my view:

a) Successfully arguing that being so uncomfortable with death that cemeteries are creepy is a valid and healthy emotional experience. It is not objectively harmful or negative.

b) Successfully arguing that my emotional experience in cemeteries isn't healthy, and may be an unhealthy way that I myself am processing past grief.

c) Successfully arguing that there cultural influences that I am not seeing or haven't been exposed to. ie some people were raised in a culture that is uncomfortable with cemeteries, so it is normal for them, and not necessarily unhealthy?