AITAH for not wanting to work with my friend anymore?

my (17f) now ex friend (20f) became friends in college (i’m not american). and we bonded over stuff, she was a good friend most of the time but she would be really weird then be really nice which would make me second guess whether she’s a bad friend or not and she would make these like really corny jokes (racism, judging my looks, sexual jokes) or touch my thigh as a “joke” (i would say stop but in a joking kind of tone so that’s lowkey my fault for not setting that boundary) but that’s besides the point.

i don’t even remember how but she ended up convincing me to work with her because she “had a really good idea that the teacher liked” and she said she didn’t want me to go down the same path she did, i guess i was pretty convinced since she’s done the project before. idk how i ended up following what she said, she would take my phone so i would work only on the project, (phones are allowed btw). there were assignments i had no idea about because id only focus on the project.

when i brought the idea of me working on my own to her because she spam called me since i wasn’t in and said “don’t make me regret working with you for our project” she said that she saw talent in me and said that she should guide me so that i would pass. but the thing is i just trusted her since she’s done the project in the past

what really made me reconsider our friendship was this one day i was going to college and she decides to tell me when im like 5 stops away that there’s no college because the teachers aren’t in, i say im going home then i get spam called and texted because she apparently needed someone with her and she genuinely sounded on the verge of tears when i answered the phone so i ended up going to see her, now she did apologise for her actions which i appreciate but it made me realise that our friendship was crossing the boundary of what a healthy friendship is.

she wasn’t in the whole week the next week so i decided to speak to my other friend about the whole situation and the fact that i want to do my own project. my other friend said that she was controlling, immature and somewhat came across predatory. that whole week i actually got to speak to other people (she did kinda isolate me from everyone) and i vented to my teacher about the project, i ended up crying because i was so scared to upset her by saying i wanted to do the project by myself.

so that same day i text her, and here’s a summary: i said for her not to take this the wrong way but i really wanted to do my own project, and she said “you don’t wanna work with me and don’t want anything to do with me or be my friend” and i defend myself saying that “so me wanting to do my own project = me not wanting to be friends with you” and she said yeah and basically told me to block her, and i did just that

this was around 2 weeks ago and i just wanna know, aita? considering that she might’ve felt like i switched up on her in a way

thanks

Posted Mar 27, 2026, 8:03 PM UTC · locked

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