Question to promiscuous guys: Why do you guys prefer this over dating ?
Okay, so before you read this, please remember that I have ASPD. It’s not my fault if I seem a certain way; it’s just who I am.
Dating and relationships don’t really appeal to me. It’s an uncanny feeling; nothing feels perfect. I’m a pretty young guy (college age) with a consistent good cash flow, which means I can date whoever I want. However, the options aren’t really satisfying. For context, I’ve never dated before.
Long-term relationships honestly don’t seem ideal for me. Any kind of long-term commitment feels cold and uncomfortable. I don’t like talking to people, and I don’t really like attachment or emotions. It’s just a bit silly to think about from my perspective. It’s completely foreign to me, and it would just feel weird. The biggest problem is that if I get into a long-term relationship, my partner would get older while I’d be older with money. That could give me the opportunity to date younger women, but I’d have to watch the person I dated become less attractive to me. And anyway, if you guys say “but these young women won’t love you,” well, if that’s the case, I wouldn’t care. I think from a transactional point of view.
So I am left with doing spontaneous hookups but that also feels weird, I mean it would feel like I’m maybe missing something but I guess it’s the best option for me, anyways I want to hear opinions from guys that have this lifestyle to tell me how much it’s better than being in a LTR and to not scare me of missing something (I know I’m not missing anything probably but I was conditioned to think that way).
Posted Mar 27, 2026, 8:08 PM UTC