Am I the Victim or is he?

I was in a Situationship for about six months and we’re gonna call him Mr. steroids. There were red flags from the beginning, just comments he would make. For example, this was my first night meeting him and me and my roommate were hanging out in my room before he came over and I went downstairs to get him and she was grabbing something in my room when we came back up and she said “oh sorry good night love you.” He was like you know your friend can say hi to me right, like he was upset and was like do you just have guys over a lot. Anyways, little stuff like that he always would say stuff about guys. I was still Snapchat chatting other guys around the time we hung out for the first time and a couple weeks after. he never sat me down and told me he wanted to be exclusive. Because I also mentioned to him that I wasn’t sure if I wanted a relationship. He looked through my phone and was pissed he saw other guys and I never went through his phone. He said he wasn’t talking to other girls, however, there were a few times throughout our relationship when we both did have Snapchat that I saw other girls, like they were snapping him, but he said he wasn’t snapping them? LMAO. Anyways I unadded them all, and never talk to other guys at this point. My snap score would go up a lot because I’m away from all my friends at college so we send a lot of videos. He would always make a huge fuss about this and make me send my recents on snap. I caught him going through my drawers a couple times when I was in the bathroom. I never went through this man’s phone so I have no idea if he was ever talking to any girls throughout this whole time. We both deleted Snapchat, but there was a few times I caught him having it and he said it was because he was looking to see if I downloaded it back. Anyways fast forward to my friend’s birthday about 2 months of us talking. we all went bowling and it was a group of us kind of like a triple date. One of the guys that was there I went to high school with so we talked a lot and was catching up throughout the night and all of us were talking, but him. I noticed he started to get irritated, so I asked him about it and he was pissed I was talking to this guy, and not paying attention to him bowling because there were a few times he got a strike and I missed it. We ended up leaving early and the next morning I worked and he slept in, at my apartment. I texted him at work, bringing it up again because he felt like I was flirting and not being as attentive, and I felt like I was not flirting at all, and I did bring my friends into it and ask them what they thought if I was flirting, and they didn’t think I was. My friend and I were calling him insane, and he went through my phone when I got home and he saw the messages then slapped me and chocked me. After this, we were very off and on, like on for a couple weeks off for a couple days. When we were off, I did download Snapchat back and I was talking to a few guys I used to talk to and when we came back together because I texted him or he texted me, I removed everybody, but he would go through my phone in the middle of the night to see who I un added. He then slapped me and choked me again and this time I did fight back and he was on steroids so he is like 250 pounds of pure muscle and he was on top of me and I pushed off the wall and my foot went through it. He made me Venmo him money to fix it. Again, we were talking for a couple weeks, then was off again and I did do the same stuff and it happened again when we came back together. This time his mom & dad walked in, not when he was hitting me at this point but we were arguing and he told them it was because I was talking to my exs. Anyways when he was on top of me again I bit his cheek and his mom saw, and he said she’s pissed at me, but I bet he didn’t tell them, what he did to me. He would also mae comments abt killing me. He takes videos of us having sex and i’m ok with that, but what i didn’t know is he sent it to my guy friends and I didn’t find out till the next day. He was convinced they all liked me, but half them have GFS, and it’s just genuine friendship, but what I have gathered from him is he can’t have girls that are friends because he’s sexualizes every woman. He told me that his body count was 6 but kept bringing up the number 32 throughout our relationship when we talked about other genders. He basically admitted that he uses girls for sex and that he can’t have friends that are girls because he just wanted to fuck them and that he will fuck one girl and then fuck their best friend the next day. I’m so over him. It’s just I have such a hard time with, feeling like I’m the abuser, because that’s how he made me feel and I know he genuinely sees no wrong in his actions and is going to tell everybody that I was the abuser.