“Time will heal” I finally get it now, I’m not completely there yet, but definitely closer

Time will heal. There will be ups and downs. It’ll be a roller coaster.

Never really believed in that, I thought it meant “just suffer, it’s part of it and you can’t avoid it.”

And it’s true, you have to suffer but eventually you’ll move on. In those moments where your heart is aching for them, you learn to soothe yourself better. You learn to avoid the triggers. You learn the patterns that make you think of them even when you don’t want to. You learn to break that train of thought, that habit, you remind yourself how this went for you. You are also just living your life and moving on, even if you don’t realize it.

It doesn’t happen instantly, so don’t try to force yourself to heal or speed the process up. After 2 years of my emotions being all scrambled up and also with zero self control, I am now at a place where I know I’m only thinking of the breakup bc maybe by day don’t go well or maybe I’m just feeling a bit depressed about something else. My mind instantly brings the breakup whenever I am in a sad mood. It’s like the memories are tied to that feeling. I am aware of this, so I just remind myself that.

I still do think of the person daily. Like faded thoughts. They aren’t so strong anymore.

With more time going by, I’m looking forward to that tie being broken. Feeling sadness, without you.