I (23M) misread signals and unknowingly made a girl uncomfortable. Did I mess up bad?
I (23) misread signals and unknowingly made a girl uncomfortable
I unknowingly made a girl uncomfortable 2 days back by misreading her signals. So the background to this is, we meet 3-4 weeks before as my friends introduced me to her. So 5 of us went on a trip in our 4th meeting and then in the trip we both made out and were very close throughout the trip like holding hands, being close, holding each other. She was initiative too that time. But one mistake I did in the trip was I gave her a hickie and next day she became uncomfortable and maintained her distance in college after that. But I still would text her sometimes and we did meet as a group of 5 again 2-3 times after that. One of her friend suggested we book an airbnb (5 people) and party. One guy said his arrival to the plan is contingent and he may or may not come. So it was four of us. (2 girls 2 boys). And the other couple were also having a fling and there fling didn’t end after the Udaipur like ours did. So, thinking that she again came for the airbnb plan and she was okay with it since we had a thing in our trip and I was still stuck on that trip mindset, that night, I was being very close to her. I would sit close to her, try to hold her waist, hold hands sometimes and sometimes put my arms around her shoulders. She didn’t say anything that it made her uncomfortable or anything so I thought we’re chill in this aspect as the vibe was in our trip. But in one moment she literally stood up and went to the other room when I was jut sitting close to her and then she told my friends that “I am not getting the hints at all and I’m still approaching her and getting close her and that she is getting very uncomfortable”. After that, my friends told me this and after I knew that I completely backed off. So the 5th friend who came late was going back home and I said I would come with him as I was very drunk in this situation and I knew in this drunk state even though I wouldn’t do anything to her after this but I may get emotional and still do something stupid. But my friend told going off like this would look awkward now. So I stayed there. Next day she blocked me on whatsapp and Instagram.
Another thing that I came to know after that is she said to the other couple that she doesn’t want to do anything with me in that party and wanted them to indirectly intervene if I try to make any moves on her. What is making me sad is that, they never told me about this that she’d be uncomfortable by my presence or even at that moment, in the first instance itself if she’d have told me that the fact that I’m coming close to her is making her uncomfortable, I’d have left the airbnb and went back. I would never even go to a plan in the first place if I knew that my presence would make someone uncomfortable. I’ve been replaying this whole scene since the last 2 days and I feel really bad that she felt uncomfortable. I completely misread the things and I couldn’t get any hints. But since then I’ve completely backed off and won’t ever reach out to her again.
Did I fuck up bad in this situation?
Posted Mar 30, 2026, 6:08 AM UTC