Dear INTJS

I need insight from ENFPs and INTJs. I’ve started dating an INTJ, it’s been 3 months now. Everything’s good so far. I studied communications and advertising (I did 1.5 years of computer engineering and then switched to comms) and my boyfriend also studied computers engineering but he finished it. Anyway, I’ve paid for everything related to my education since I was 21, while his parents paid for everything for him, which is a blessing.

We’re both working now (him as a programmer in an office, and me as a remote HR/recruiter), but I make about 30% more than him because I speak 4 languages and work with international clients. He also works 48 hours per week, while I only work 40, and the stress he goes through for what he makes is brutal (in my opinion).He deserves more compensation, especially when I help other devs land higher-paying jobs.

Anyway, we were talking about a friend who’s a musician, and I said something like: I wonder when our kids are born (he wants to marry me and have kids with me), if they’ll be into logic and anime like him or literature, languages, and art like me. And he said he had been thinking about that before and was wondering “what is the use of being an artist,” and that if our kids wanted to be musicians, he would just force them into more “solid” careers like STEM.

Not gonna lie… I felt my heart shatter into pieces as an ENFP. I felt like now I don’t want to share much related to art or anything he might see as… unnecessary, for lack of a better word. I understand the demands of the world, but forcing my child to study a career they might hate sounds like torture.

Should I tell him how that made me feel? I don't know what to feel. Honestly I felt insulted, like what I'm naturally talented in isn't worth shit. I didn't make a carreer out of music but a lot of what I did was audiovisual production and art and lit. 

I got a headche.

What to think/feel?