33 [M4A] #online #germany Nerdy talkative Dom looking for curious submissive

Hey everyone!

I'm a Dominant/Sadist/Daddy with 15 years of experience in the scene. I am looking for an online playpartner to form a dynamic with. I prefer to build a deep friendship first, take time to build trust and let the sexual connection naturally build from that. I am demisexual, without that connection I don't feel attraction at all. While I am able to meet people who happen to live in europe I am looking for online first irl maybe some day down the line.

My kinks are quite versatile. I enjoy a mix of soft and hard, affectionate sadism, playful humiliation. The most important part is the mental side, getting into your mind, figuring out wich buttons to press to make you melt, discovering new things together. I like the journey of developing a unique dynamic together more than any specific goal we could aim for. Specific things I know I like:

• Painplay. Especially clamps, impact and waxplay. The most important part are the reactions I get, not specifically how hard I am hurting you.

• Orgasm control. Love edging, begging, ruined orgasms. Chastity/denial can be fun but prefer not to keep it longterm as the best part is the anticipation, the tension of not knowing if the next edge will be the one where you are finally allowed to cum.

• Humiliation and praise. Not a lot into heavy degrading, prefer playful embarassement, making you blush by gently pushing you out of your comfort zone. I want you to feel loved and cared for while still treating you "from above" during a scene.

• Daddydom and (loving) Petplay. Just generally love the soft and caring aspects of those roles.

• Brattaming and primal play. Just love getting a little resistance that makes the submission afterwards feel truly earned.

• Bondage and CNC. My sub being helpless is just such a sweet powerful feeling. Darker fantasies are great.

My hard limits are scat and anything that causes permanent harm. Soft limits are heavy degrading like raceplay, appearance degradation, intelligence based humiliation.

I highly value proper communication, safewords, aftercare and keeping things safe. I expect honesty from your side about how experienced you are, and I will not let myself be pressured into going faster than I am comfortable.

In everyday life I'm a pretty nerdy guy. I work as a postdoc scientist (duh, name), I read A LOT of nonfiction and obsessively watch documentaries so I'm full of useless funfacts and can will throw it at you. I love nature and animals, am a vegetarian, love hiking and biking, gardening and carpentry. I have a love for fantasy, mythology and history.

Personality wise I'd call myself calm and introverted but confident. I am full of bad jokes, have a lot of opinions about the world, but am tolerant of other worldviews as long they are not rooted on hate. I'm pretty much impossible to get truly angry, and somehow am able to be personally happy despite having very little hope for our world. I guess I have a teacher mentality as I love sharing knowledge and helping people with advice. I am slightly neurodivergent.

Appearance if it matters: I am 6'1, 170lb, long brown curly hair, short beard, green eyes. Mostly wear t-shirts or sweatshirts. People say I have a friendly harmless daddy face where noone would suspect I'm a sadist behind closed doors.

So who am I looking for?

• First of all a submissive or switch. Experience not required, I like teaching newcomers.

• Age doesn't really matter. Just be emotionally mature enough go into this with patience and openness.

• All genders welcome, though I have a preference for someone who is at least partially feminine.

• I am looking for someone who is as curious about the world as me. You don't have to be a reasearcher too, but you should understand the passion for learning new things and appreaciate me excitedly sharing some fascinating piece of knowledge.

• Be open minded about exploring new things. If you have a specific idea in mind of what a dynamic MUST work out like you are not looking for a partner you are doing a rolecast.

• Someone who genuinely likes communicating a lot. as I am very talkative. If this post is too long to read entirely find someone else please.

• Mental health compatability. I don't mind anxious or depressed people, I have no issue with repeating reassurance often. What I can't deal with is random aggression or a fickle hot/cold binding type.

If this seems interesting to you please send me a message with an introduction. Bonus points if it's so long that you feel an urge to apologize for the wall of text.

Hope to hear from you!